Praying in dating
SEE ALSO: He Said-She Said: Involvement with Married People This isn’t an easy process, it will take time and there is no perfect “formula,” but it all begins with releasing any negative feelings you have toward your former partner, forgiving them for whatever wrong they may have done, asking the Lord to heal you of your hurt and pain and holding onto hope, faith and love.When the next opportunity comes around, and there will be more, you will be better equipped to handle whatever that situation holds. SHE SAID: Maybe it’s because I came of age in the ‘80s, but Def Leppard’s “Bringin’ on the Heartbreak” kept ringing in my ears the first time I read through your question. SEE ALSO: He Said-She Said: Stop Thinking About Finding a Mate Moving on …So when there is a break in this type of relationship, there is always some pain associated with the tearing away of what was once bonded so closely. But I think the key is what you do with that pain in dealing with heartbreak. Now you may not view this person as an enemy, but you’re certainly not bosom buddies any longer and there is definitely a wall between you now, right?Do you allow it to cause you to act out and treat the other person unkindly or view him or her with utter disdain? Or do you stuff it away and deny that there is anything hurtful that happens to you emotionally any time you are around this person? It’s a new boundary that has been erected between you as a result of the break-up, and it is emotional protection for the both of you.As you know, a close relationship (whether romantic or platonic) knits two people together, through time spent together, through thoughts, feelings and dreams shared via interpersonal communication and through a whole host of experiences that two may share as they do life together. I don’t think that means you go out of your way to spend time with them like you used to and try to renew the once-strong ties.
There was still pain lurking in my heart as a result of the break-up, and I was still healing.But I would see him in passing from time to time and would hear of what new girls he was dating and what not.Yes, I was cordial and would offer a perfunctory “hello” when we crossed paths.Once school started, the boy I had dated was now “big man on campus,” as most senior males might feel as they proudly strut along the school hallways during their last year in high school.
[Insert “fun” teenage eye-roll here.] Thankfully, we didn’t have any classes together.HE SAID: Heartbreak is difficult and not something that is easily “gotten over,” nor should it necessarily be.