And believe me, it wasn’t much better for the women I tried to date, either.
I hurt a number of people in my quest to get my dick wet and, at the time, I didn’t care.
They talk about feeling broken or unworthy, that they’ve missed some sort of open time frame where they could lose their virginity and now they’re (metaphorically) screwed.
It feels like to 50 – that they can’t bring themselves to talk about it.
Because when we fail to follow the Standard Virginity Loss Narrative, the fault lies with .
Speaking of stories: I want to tell you the story about my first time. Not too far off from the average age of 17 actually, but even had I known, it wouldn’t have made me feel better at the time.
According to the Standard Narrative, the ideal time is at some suitably momentous occasion: the “big game”, at prom… If you can’t manage it in high school, then you wants to be there because here there be dragons.
On Monday, I talked a little about the toxic culture surrounding masculinity and how it hurts men.
Today, I want to start the conversation to help dismantle it.
What makes this especially twisted is the way we internalize the pressure to fuck, to be a virgin.
When we fail to follow the narrative we get angry, lashing out at others and haranguing ourselves in turns.We blame others for somehow depriving us of sex, as though it were something we were owed.