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For the same reason, we have also seen a rise in the number of women working part-time: they have to have an income, but cannot commit to a full-time role.A survey by uk found that 79 per cent of women were considering either extending their hours or re-entering the workplace because they were worried about their partner's job prospects.That's because we all still tacitly assume that it is mothers who will take time out from work and be at home with the children.' Nikki and Mark ironed out their problems only by being completely honest with each other, and by appreciating their differences.'We talk about anything and everything,' says Nikki.In the intervening years, Nikki fast-tracked her way up the career ladder, ending up as head of her own firm 'with a huge house in Sevenoaks, a flash convertible Audi and a wardrobe full of designer labels'.She now earns as much as five times what Mark does, with the potential to increase that even more over the coming years.
Most women work, and while attitudes have moved on (working women don't expect to be 'kept', while men are happier to help out around the house and with childcare), our personal lives are still heavily defined by the experiences with which we grew up.
Our fathers largely derived their sense of identity from their ability to provide and protect, and our mothers from their family and domestic lives.
And even when they were cheerleaders for the new roles and opportunities for their daughters, they taught us the same values they had.
'When I recently landed a £60,000 contract, Mark's initial reaction was: "You've just earned in a month what I earn in a year! Marks says: 'I have to admit that if we hadn't already fallen in love and been very close after we met again, I would probably have struggled with the relationship because of her earning power.' Like many couples with a female breadwinner, they have had to re-evaluate their deepest feelings and expectations about relationships as both adjust to their change of roles.
'If I measure myself against my late father's values, which held that a man should be the main breadwinner and provide security for his family, then I'm failing miserably,' admits Mark. 'When we got back together, there was an element of me thinking: "If I'm this driven, then you have to be, too,"' she says.
'Even when we were teenagers, Nikki was the love of my life,' he says.