Photo: Siri Stafford / Thinkstock"This is just a no-no," says Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker and author of The Pathway to Love.
"It's nasty and belittling, and it gets at his fear that he may be exhibiting the worst traits of his family." If you're about to spout a criticism like this, stop and think about what's behind it: Maybe your father-in-law is the kind of guy who never cleans up after himself, and your husband's habit of leaving dirty dishes around the house is getting to you.
Then, while you're both clothed and not in the bedroom, bring up some things you enjoy sexually and that you would like to try in order to enhance the experience next time around, taking care not to place blame on him.
By emphasizing what arouses you and what you two can do in the future, you'll spare his feelings without duping him in the process.
You shouldn't feel that way at home." Here, nine statements that you should never utter to your significant other––and the words that you should try instead.
Lying is never a great idea, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. When you pretend you're enjoying sex, you may think that you're sparing his feelings, but you're actually pushing him away by not being honest.
'" Without ganging up on him, that could open up a discussion about money worries that stem from his childhood, for example.
If you have an issue with how much money he's making, "it's an opportunity to talk about your lifestyle and how you want to live," she adds. " Something must have seriously infuriated you, because what you're doing here is letting him know that there are others in your "camp." "You are trying to validate your 'side' of an argument, as though you're marshalling an army to your side," says Orlov.They’re much more likely to distract themselves or isolate.3.