Dating a man who was emotionally abused
Meanwhile, nastier criticisms were levied at me: she chastised my parenting with comments such as “It’s a good thing we didn’t have daughters because you would just fuck them up psychologically.” Other times she’d belittle me as being nothing more than a 14-year-old boy trying to get laid.And when she disgustingly asked if I was ever going to be a man, I answered with my new standard reaction—tears and silence.Instead she wanted to take issue with my emotional unavailability. Yet somehow my wife managed to twist isolated moments from my youth into a childhood fraught with abuse at the hands of my parents, none of which was remotely true.Months of restrained frustration erupted as I grabbed her and screamed in her face to leave me alone. For almost a year, I agreed to cut off contact with them.Things didn’t improve, not even with the rapid promotions I earned, affording my wife the lifestyle she had spoken often of wanting.I sunk into a deep depression and, after another blowup, agreed to seek counseling for anger issues.
An emotionally abusive man controls his partner by manipulating her fear of harm, isolation, and deprivation; he threatens or implies that he might hurt her, leave her, or keep her apart from the things she loves.These so-called “talks” usually boiled down to her latest item among a growing list of petty criticisms: I hung pictures too high, I made the bed the wrong way, I didn’t put the dishrag in the right place, I folded T-shirts poorly—all things I did to help around the house.